Be Self-Compassionate

In other words, treat yourself like your own best friend.
Published October 30, 2016

Are Your Friends and Family Perfect?


No, right? When they fall down you pick them back up. Give yourself the same permission to be imperfect — just like every other human being. Self-compassion is a balance: You cut yourself slack when you slip up or if things don’t go your way — while still being accountable for your actions. You think kind, encouraging thoughts about yourself when things are fantastic, and also when they’re not going so well.1

Benefits of Being Self-Compassionate


Studies show that when you take your successes and failures in stride, you may find that you’re less afraid of failure and more satisfied with life.2 People who practice self- compassion are more likely to eat well, exercise, and take good care of themselves, even when stressed.3 They’re also better able to maintain their weight loss.4

1. Neff KD. Self-compassion: an alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity. 2003;2:85-102.
2. Neff KD, Kirkpatrick KL, Rude SS. An examination of self-compassion in relation to positive psychological functioning and personality traits. Journal of Research in Personality. 2007;41:908-916.
3. Terry ML, et al. Self-compassionate reactions to health threats. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. 2013;39(7):911-926.
4. Mantzios M, Wilson JC. Exploring mindfulness and mindfulness with self-compassion-centered interventions to assist weight loss. Theoretical considerations and preliminary results of a randomized pilot study. Mindfulness. 2014 Jul 24:1-12