What you can (and can’t) control right now

Weekly topic: What you can (and can't) control

Many of us might be feeling a general lack of control these days, like we’re out of the driver’s seat and just along for the ride. Usually, the more in control we feel over what’s happening in our lives, the more motivated, happier, and less stressed we are. At a time when we’re all reaching to take back the steering wheel, it’s helpful to shift our focus and actions to what we can control and influence.

Internal vs. external control

We have a strong sense of internal control when we’re in the driver’s seat, knowing that our choices and actions impact what happens to us.

We have a strong sense of external control when we feel like we’re in the passenger seat and that other people or circumstances determine what happens to us.

3 fast facts

1. At any given time, both internal and external control are at play. There are things we can and can’t control, and things that fall somewhere in the middle.

2. The more control we feel we have over what happens in our lives, the more motivated we are to take action.

3. To regain a greater sense of internal control, we can shift our thoughts and focus our actions on what we can control and influence - not what we can’t.

This week’s technique

List what you can’t - and can - control. Then use that information to help you get back in the driver’s seat.

What you can’t control or influence. Government decisions, what’s left in the supermarket...the list goes on. The more time spent focusing on those things, the more likely you are to be stressed. Once we’ve accepted what’s out of our control, it can actually help you feel more in control.

For example: Schools and restaurants being closed, trips being cancelled.

What you can influence. Sure, you can’t fix what’s on the news these days (we wish!) or how constant it is, but you can change how you’re responding to it. Try hitting the off button or dedicating one time each day for a news check-in. You can also spread positivity with other members in Connect!

For example: The wellbeing of others, sharing only the information you know.

What you can control. Focusing your attention here is powerful. Zone in on what's in front of you in the present moment - instead of worrying about what may or may not happen in the future. Try practicing mindful breathing, listening to music you love, or diving into a book. Another idea? Try something you've always wanted to do but haven't had time for. Learning a new language or cooking from scratch, anyone?

For example: The amount of time you spend on social media, the food you choose to eat.

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