Mindi found forgiveness
Mindi lost 93 lbs*
*People following the WW program can expect to lose 1-2 pounds/week. Mindi lost weight on a prior program and is continuing on myWW™.
In Mindi’s words:
By the time I joined WW, I’d been angry for years. For almost a decade, I was trapped in an abusive marriage, full of name-calling, interrogation, and belittling. I had three young daughters, so I felt I had to figure out my financial situation before I could leave. I didn’t have my family’s support. I wasn’t close to my mother or my seven siblings; I had been estranged from a younger sister for years. But one day, I just decided that I’d have to make it work, and I left.
Rebuilding her life
What fueled my fire
During the marriage, I used food to escape my sadness, pain, and anger. I’d make casseroles, cookies, cakes, and brownies, and eat until I was stuffed. So shortly before my divorce, I decided to try to lose weight. Over the next seven years, I cycled up and down on the scale. In April 2016, I visited a doctor and asked him to put me on weight-loss pills. He suggested I join WW, but I insisted I wanted to try medication. He prescribed a monthlong supply. When I returned after 30 days and saw that I had gained 4 pounds, I was furious. That fury got me to walk through the doors of WW. I believed that I was heavy due to everything other people had done to me. But while anger got me to join, what I really wanted was to get through a day feeling happy.
Talking it out
After joining WW, I started seeing a therapist. I wanted her to help me “fix” my pain from my past. But through our sessions, I realized there were things I needed to change in order to move forward. I couldn’t erase the past, but I could change my attitude. I call it the miracle of forgiveness: WW kick-started a shift in my life, and it helped me transform. I realized I didn’t need to hate my mom, my sister, or my ex. Once I started to learn how to love myself, my capacity to love and forgive others opened up and changed my world.
It was important for me to express my feelings, and my therapist recommended writing a letter to my mother. When I sat down to do it, my mind went blank. But then I thought about my wonderful childhood memories during Christmas, and I began to feel tenderness for her. It couldn’t have been easy raising eight children. I have three, and that’s hard enough. When my mother read the letter, she called me in tears and we said “I love you” to each other. For my sister’s birthday, I sent her flowers, and that jump-started our reconciliation.
How Mindi’s success with WW has improved her life
As a girl, I loved Wonder Woman and The Incredible Hulk — the look of muscle. It’s always been a dream of mine to be a body-builder. I go to the gym six days a week — it’s my antidepressant. After I lost weight, I noticed a lot of loose skin. The surgery to remove it is expensive, so I researched weight lifting. I found a program to follow, and I’ve been building muscle with the help of a coach. My goal is to step on a bodybuilding stage one day.
A better me
Today, I have no ill feelings toward anyone in my life. My relationships with my mother and all of my siblings are good. Forgiveness allowed me to take ownership of my actions. This is the first time that I’ve been in such a good emotional place. This transformation helped me become a better person and better mother. My weight started melting away and I was happier. Instead of telling my daughters about the inward changes I was making, I started being kinder, more affectionate, more loving. I stopped raising my voice; I started praying with them; I became more patient. I know that my children look up to me as an example. It’s never too late to transform your life.