It's On Me

By Kara Richardson Whitely

This morning I woke up at 5:30 a.m. because my son woke up. It isn’t uncommon for that to happen. I helped him back to sleep and then something different happened. Instead of going back to bed, I went downstairs.

I was feeling well rested, after settling down at a decent hour the night before. And I was motivated. I recently read a post by Benjamin P. Hardy about “Anything Is Possible if You Pay the Price.”

Essentially, it was about how you have to give up some things to get what you really want. My favorite line in it was, “You can’t continue to justify living beneath your dreams."

So this morning, I decided to give up lazing in bed and got to work. Hardy’s piece fortified something I of course knew was true: My success, with weight, with writing, with my family, is on me. Each little decision I make either takes me closer to what I want to do or further from my goals.

That’s a big responsibility. But I also know there’s a ripple effect. The more successful I am with my health, the more I can be an active mom. The more successful I am as a writer, the better life is for my family.

So I got to work, typing up a storm in the quiet of my living room. With a hot coffee powering me through till sunrise. Then, I took it a step further.

I set out breakfast for my girls, which alleviated the frantic search for cereal and bowls with my 1-year-old son in my arms or clinging to my leg. I prepared my gym bag with a towel, cycling shoes, and a full bottle of water for spin class. I knew if I did this, I would be more likely to attend class that day.

And then I made a concrete plan for dinner, taking out some meat to defrost. If I did this, I couldn’t just dissolve into my kids’ requests “Can we get pizza or Chinese food tonight?” simply because I haven’t planned anything else for dinner.

That is not only hard on my budget, but also not always the best choice for my meals.

I knew I needed to keep this momentum going throughout the day and into my daily life. I needed to do some shifting of my schedule and priorities at home. I’ve been spending a little too much time on Facebook instead of working on my next book (which is now due out in Spring 2018). Each “like” on someone else’s page is just a distraction from my best self and my own book. My goal is to be the best writer that I can be and I can’t do that while being distracted by social media.

So in 2017, I’m resolving to pay the price for my dreams. To really do the work that I need to be healthy, have a happy family, and be a successful writer and speaker. In the end, it will be so worth it.   

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